Expectations are normalized
in present-day relationships.
So is blaming, holding
accountable, boundaries, and
control. It's time to
de-normalize expecting
anything from others.

My expectation from you is a
premeditated disappointment,
because it is a subconscious
rejection of who you currently
are.

It is a demand my Ego places
on your freedom to be.

Expectation is a direction I have
chosen for you to act in. I expect
you to praise me, respect me,
understand me, see me for who I
want to be seen as. The moment
you fail to do so, which you always
do, because you cannot read my mind,
I get hurt. The I blame you,
and wish you were different.

Their actions don't hurt us.
Our expectations do.
Their aggression does not
hurt us. Our weakness does.
This is not blaming the
victim. This is taking
responsibility.

Where there is blame, there is
dependence and weakness.
Where there is responsibility,
there is intrinsic power. Modern
therapy teaches you to label,
blame, and constrain others in
the name of boundaries. Then it
tells you this is power - which is a
bald-faced lie.

Boundaries do not give you
power. They give you a false
sense of control and a true
loss of that relationship. In
your mind you won, in their
mind, the relationship has
long ended.

That, is not power. That is
self-isolation and self-
victimization. True power is
self-reliance and self-
understanding. It has got
nothing to do with another's
thoughts or behaviors. It has
zero relationship to
boundaries.None.

As long as you want others
to change, expect them to
change, they control you.
Even when you leave them
and think endlessly about
how they abused you, they
still control you. Whoever
occupies your mind,
controls you.

True freedom is the end of all
expectations from others. It is
to understand yourself so
deeply that you feel secure
from that understanding, not
from someone else's actions.
You don't need them to
change. You need yourself to
see who you are.

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Art: miboso - Be calm in the chaos