I got upset because of your actions.

You got upset because of my reaction.

We are not the same.

I raised my voice after being ingnored.

You raised yours to avoid accountability.

We are not the same.

I reacted after my boundaries were crossed.

You reacted because your ego was bruised.

We are not the same.

I cried because I felt unheard.

You got angry because I wouldn't stay quiet.

We are not the same.

When someone pushes you until you break....

And then point at the breaking as proof you're
the problem, that's not mutual damage.

That's deflection.

Accountability feels like an attack...

To someone who benefits from your staying silent.
So they shift the focus, from their behavior to your
tone.

From their actions to your reaction.

And suddenly you're apologising for reacting…

Instead of being asked why you had to react at all.

A response to mistreatment is not the same as the
mistreatment itself.

One is defence.
One is control.

We are not the same.

@frankiestherapy