Serving others is not loving them.
Saving others is not loving them
either. It is loving yourself.

Serving others is a trauma response.
When the only way to receive love is
to do more than what we could have,
we carry over this way of living
into adulthood.

This manifests as people pleasing
or self-sacrificing to save others.
In reality we are only saving past
versions of ourselves.

Serving others in this way builds
resentment, which soon reveals
itself in the form of conflict
in relationships.
"I did so much for you," is met
with "No, you did it for yourself."

Both of which are true. To come
out of this resentment, we must
figure how to love others because
love is happening.

It's coming through us, spontaneously.
Such love is not-overgiving. Because
it's not compensating for under-receiving.

That spontaneous love only flows from
us when we go from being afraid, craving
individuals to fearless and content
individuals in our own being.

Then we come back to where we started.
And once again.

Serving others is not loving them.
Saving others is not loving them either.
It is loving yourself.

Finding awareness