One of the subtle habits I keep observing
in human nature is this: we rarely seek the
truth as it is. More often, we search for
ideas that make us feel comfortable with
who we already are. We don't Always go
looking for wisdom to transform ourselves;
we go looking for quotes, philosophies,
spiritual teachings, or motivational
messages that validate our existing choices.
Instead of allowing truth to shape us, we
try to shape truth until it fits us.

This tendency is not new. I remember it
even from childhood. If a neighbour
complained to my mother that I had done
something wrong, her immediate instinct
was to defend me. She would say, "He's
just a child," of find some explanation
that softened the mistake. It wasn't because
the action had suddenly become right; it was
because love naturally wants to protect.
Yet if another child had done the same
thing, we might have judged it far more
harshly. The action remained the same,
but our attachment coloured our perception.

That same pattern follows us into adulthood.
When someone we admire behaves poorly, we
often rush to explain it away.
We reinterpret their actions, search for
philosophical justifications, or selectively
quote scriptures and spiritual teachers until
their behavior appears acceptable. We are not
examining reality anymore; we are defending our
attachment. Our likes and dislikes quietly
become the lens through which we interpret
truth.

Spirituality loses its purpose the moment
it becomes a tool for self-justification.
Its purpose is not to comfort our ego but
to confront it. Genuine wisdom does not ask,
"How can I make this teaching fit my life?"
It asks, "What in my life must change to
align witg this truth?" Those are two
completely different approaches.

The same happens when we receive
uncomfortable feedback. If someone points
out a flaw in us directly, our first instinct
is often to question the Messenger rather
than examine the message. We search for
alternative opions that make us feel
better, gather quotes that support our
current behaviour, or argue that there are
many perspectives. Sometimes there are.
But sometimes we are simply resisting the
mirror because it reflects something we do
not wish to see.

Real growth begins when we stop defending
ourselves and start observing ourselver.
It begins when we are willing to call a
wrong action "wrong," even when it is
commited by someone we deeply love or by
ourselves. Love does not require us to
glorify every action. Compassion does
not require us to distort reality. In fact,
the highest form of love is honest enough
to acknowledge mistakes while still caring
for the person.

Truth is not meant to be painted in the
colours of our preferences. It asks us
to remove those colours altogether. If we
genuinely seek wisdom, let us not search
for teachers who merely agree with us.
Let us seek the courage to be corrected,
because transformation begins not when
truth agrees with us, but when we are
willing to agree with truth.

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art:Garis Edelweiss