They will miss you.
They will think of you.
They may even hold love for
you in a quiet chamber of their heart.
Yet, their silence remains unbroken.
This is the central paradox: their
care is not absent, but it is imprisoned
by a fear of intimacy so powerful that
reaching out feels akin to stepping into
the void.
Needing someone, to their wired
nervous system, doesn't feel like
love - it feels like danger.
But here is the critical truth you
must hear: their strategic self-protection
does not spare them pain.
It only ensures that when
heartbreak comes, they will
face it in total isolation.
Their walls keep everyone
out, including those who
could help them heal.
Let's state the raw reality:
Some avoidant partners are not just scared.
They are emotionally reckless.
They are architects of cycles: they
love-bomb to create connection,
then disappear when it requires depth.
They repeat this pattern, fully aware
of the whiplash they cause.
They are comfortable being the one
who leaves, because it beats the
terror of ever being left.
This isn't about misunderstanding. It's
about a choice.
Some see the devastation and choose their
own emotional safety over your heart, again
and again.
Your healing cannot wait for an
accountability that will never come.
It begins the moment you stop
internalizing their avoidant attachment
as a reflection of your worth.
The deepest wound is often not the
abandonment, but the erasure of your
own presence while you loved them.
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