Relationships are meant to naturally flow...like the tides of the ocean.

Connection.
Disconnection.
Reconnection.

Any relationship will Always go through phases of disconnection.
They have to. It's a natural phenomenon that cannot be avoided.
Trying to escape this pattern causes great suffering to so many
couples who try to desperately cling to connection, and are terrified
when the disconnection occurs.

But the point isn't to avoid the disconnection, it's to become good at it.

To attune to the right moments to take space, and allow it to happen gracefully.

Otherwise space has no other way of occuring than through conflict and rupture.

As individuals we breathe.
In and out.

We go through phases where we feel inwards, and other times when we want
to be outwards.

A relationship is the same.

We need time together,
we need time alone.

Often conflict is tension building up in a relationship because
there is no space to breathe…

Because what better way to unconsciously make space than a fight?

It's not just physical space that a relationships needs.

It's also energetic.

We need ot have both the experience of feeling that we are still an
individual, even though we are in a couple.

Too much separation and focus on the self, the relationships drifts apart.

Too much togetherness and focus on the couple, the relationship becomes
codependent.

Balance is the key.

The art of healthy relationship is to dance this dance well.

Conscious relaters understand this.

They understand that disconnection is natural, even when it comes through
conflict.

They allow space between them to exist and they know that it's not the end
of the world to feel separation sometimes.

They focus on reconnection… repair, coming back together, reestablishing
connection.

This pattern, when smooth, actually feels good. Safe. Trustable.

It's where secure intimacy lives.

Connection... those beautiful intimate moments we share together.

Disconnection… time to come back to the self, to reflect and enjoy the beauty
of being an individual.

Reconnection.. the joy of returning once more to each other, a happy reunion
after some time apart.

Allowing this pattern to flow in a relationship gives it life, lets it breathe
and the more deeply it breathes… the more vibrant it will be.

Sometimes I really enjoy leaving you
Because I Always love coming back to you
I know that when I miss you
The next time I kiss you
Will be that much sweeter.

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