You gonna have to sit with this one for a moment to really let it percolate and get in there okay. A lot of us think That if we could get to certainty we would feel better. If only I could know for sure, if only I could make sure that that, if only I could okay. I'm a neuropsychologist and my expertise is in the brain's connection to anxiety, so anxiety stress and trauma. What I'm about to say is gonna take a minute to metabolize because it is very counterintuitive and yet it is neurologically true.
The best definition that I can give you for anxiety is it is a disturbed relationship with certainty. Anxiety is a disturbed relationship with certainty. Meaning the more that we obsessively think that we need to know, the more anxious we become. Now I want you see the pattern here, because once you see it you can't unsee it. Yes. So what happens is and I think a lot of you are gonna recognize this we get into things that I call the overs. Things like overworking, overthinking, overgiving, overscheduling, overengineering, overcommunicating. Should i stop? Yes.
So the reason that we over is because it comes from an energy of fear. And what are we affraid of, most formatively we're afraid of uncertainty. So we think that if I can overdo it, I can engineer certainty in the external world. Right? I can make sure that the works turns out okay, I can make sure that people like me. I can make sure that nobody rejects me. I can make sure for sure that.. But the thing is just look at the math of your own life the more you overwork, you don't feel more peace. You don't feel more powerful. You don't feel more centered. You feel more stressed, more on edge, more anxious. Never in the history of overthink, if overthinking worked you should be able to overthink a lot one night and solve enough problems to last you 6 months. Except that never happens.
The more I overthink the more problems I have to think about. You see, so in the pursuit of certainty what ends up happening is we actually make ourselves more anxious. Think about it.

Dr. Julia Digangi
Art:Garis Edelweiss