Detaching from people doesn't mean come up with reasons they are bad. Let them be, not in an angry way, not in a frustrated way, but in a detached way. You don't go to the ocean and try to control the waves.

No one can teach you self-respect or how to value yourself. You have to choose that. What I can say is that the more you try to control people, the more they drift away.

Learn to step back with a calm heart. Send people your good wishes, even when their path no longer crosses yours.

You can't ask others to live by the standards you hold for yourself. Step back. Let them be. Trying to shape someone's choices only builds distance, just like it does when others try to shape yours. Give space - for them and for you. People rarely owe us what we imagine they do. You either keep hurting, or you let people choose their own path and learn to loosen your grip. One of those paths leads to peace.

fallen.poet