When somebody persues you first and then they withdraw it is not a mixed signal about you, it is a consistent signal about their capacity and it has nothing to do with you. You didn't lose their interest, you outpaced their tolerance. They like the spark, they like the chase and they liked how they felt, before depth ask for steadiness. What they couldn't handle was the shift from excitement to responsibility, from momentum to actual maintenance, and from Chemistry to consistency.
So they pull back, but because they did that, that is not a signal or a cue for you to chase harder, for you to prove your worth, for you to over function and over give. This is where a lot of people will spiral, where they will try to decode behavior, try to get closure for clarity. But the work isn't from getting an answer from them, the work is believing that the answer they already gave you is within their behavior and you don't need more context, you need self respect choosing yourself here means that you are stopping the pursuit. It also means that you are not going to reorganize your energy around somebody who doesn't know how to hold it. Let their withdrawal be the information not the challenge.

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