The ability to consciously open the heart is the most
important skill needed for an evolving relationship.

If you want an evolving relationship, one where growth,
healing and awakening are central to the experience of
intimacy… it needs to be created as a craft.

Relationship must be something you apply yourself to,
in order to master. With an entire set of necessary
skills to practice… regulation, boundaries, communication,
polarity, conflict....the list goes on.

One of the hardest things about relationships is that
the deeper you go in intimacy, the more the impacts to
the heart hurt.

Because nobody is perfect all the time.
You fuck up... you react.. you get into conflict....
you say hurtful things… you demand to much..

Hurt is inevitable.

When we are hurt, the heart naturally closes in response.

We protect ourselves.
We armour up.
Close down.
Withdraw.

Yet the moment the heart closes, the intimacy stops flowing.

And when the intimacy stops flowing, the relationship begins
to dry out.

Too long without the flow of love and intimacy, and the connection
shrivels and cracks like the bed of an empty desert lake.

For a relationship to be resilient we must be able to find
a way to re-open the heart after impact.

Because impact is natural
difficults are normal.

An evolving couple finds their way though the though times…

They repair and reconnect
They open their hearts again.
And they do it consciously.

Understanding
Forgiveness
Letting go.

If the resilience to weather the storms is weaker
that the intent to find love through them….
a relationship cannot last.

Until we develop consciousness our hearts are purely reactive.
They open and close without any control.

Yet as we develop consciousness we realise…
that we have a choice. We can open the heart again.

We can love again.

And together we become capable of rising to higher levels.

And it's necessary.

When we open our heart we fill ourselve with forgiveness,
empathy, compassion and love.

And all the resentment drains away.

If you want to be able to really go as far as you can in
a relationship.

This skill is needed.

@evolverelating