So much of your pain is coming because you
are asking people to give you something that they
simple do not have, they do not possess. And then
in the absence of their possession, you're making
a ton of meaning about your identity. Okay?
Hear me. So you can get, you can get deep deep
relief. Emotional energy is like a currency.
Just like everybody seems to understand money.
So if you come to me and say, hey I really need
you to give me a hunderd dollars and let's say
I actually want to give you a hunderd dollars.
I think the reason you need the hunderd dollars is
valid but I literally do not possess a hunderd dollars,
I cannot give you what I do not have. I really believe,
I'm a neuropsychologist, and I really believe that
neurotype understanding, neurotype is going to save
the world. Hear me out. Your brain is an absolutely
glorious astounding, spectacular machine but it is
still a machine and so it has parameters. It has
limits. Now, the fact that there is for example,
genetic variability, biological variability, environmental
variability necessarily then means that everyone is not
running around with the same three pound globby machine
in their head and so because our brain thinks that
something is available to us we draw certain conclusions
we have more empathy to give we have more patience
we would do it different we then therefore think
that that person should do it for us. Not to get
crude but one of my PHD mentors would Always say
shit in one hand and wish in the other and see
which one feel of first. Should is a colossal waste
of time. So, when you start to really understand
that people aren't giving it to you not because
they're trying to be cruel but because they simply
don't have it to give. It creates this aperture.
It creates this sense of like other possibility.
I can start to really think differently about them
and more importantly about my own identity.

drjuliadigangi