I've learned this the hard way:

Love isn't proven by words.
It's proven by consideration.

Consideration is when someone pauses
before acting and asks,
"How will this land on him?"

Not because they have to. But because you
matter to them.

It's the difference between;

"I need this" and

"I need this, and I'm thinking about you too."

That pause changes everything.

Most ruptures don't come from malice.
They come from self-prioritisation without
consideration.

From decisions made without fully considering
who has to absorb the impact, from endings
shaped in isolation rather than conversation.

When someone stops considering you, you start
feeling unseen.

Unprotected.

Abandoned.

Even if they never meant to harm you.

Consideration isn't self-abandonment.
It's relational maturity.

It says,

"I can honour myself without erasing you."

In any bond, be it romantic, business, or
friendship, care is revealed in how much
space you hold for the other person while
making your choices.

Not after.
Not as an apology.
But before.

That's why I value people who think relationally.

Who don't disappear when things get hard.

Who don't decide alone when the impact is shared.

Who understand that autonomy doesn't cancel responsibility.

I no longer confuse independence with strength.

True strength considers consequences.
True power is gentle enough to include others.
True care doesn't rush to self-protect at all costs.

Peace for me, comes from relationships
where I don't feel blindsided.

Where I'm not informed after decisions are made.
Where I'm not collateral damage in someone's else's clarity.

Being considerd feels like safety.

It feels like:

You matter enough for me to slow down.
You matter enough to be included
You matter enough to be handled with care.

That's what I look for now.

Not perfection.
Not intensity.
But consideration.

Anything less eventually becomes a rupture.

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