The most eye-opening dark truth
about dating app algorithms.

I'm 30 years old. Not one of my
friends has children. Zero, not one.
No one's having kids.

Do you know how hard you need to abuse
a mammal to make them not have children?
Like for real. Let's step your back a
moment right.

GDP goes up, people have a lot of..
have enough food you know to whatever.
No one's having kids.

And this is across the world,
this is across both the west, the east.
You know everywhere it's happening.

There's a thing that happens especially with
younger gen like even younger than me.
Like the kids are like 18 today.

There's a huge problem where they don't dance.
No one dances. They go to clubs and they don't dance.
Why is this ? Because you get recorded.

If you're an 18 year old kid you go to a club,
you get recorded. If you approach a girl and
you mess it up, you get recorded.

Everything is panopticon now.

So if you had to ask me why,
my answer is technology…

my answer is social media,
my answer is Ai,
my answer is algorithms.

Do you know what dating app algorithms do?
Do you know how they optimize?
They don't optimize you to meet your love
of your life.
They optimize you to keep coming back to
the app.

And now there's a thing that basically we
have sold out all of our dating norms.
All of our interpersonal norms to tech
companies...without our consent to optimize
their ad algorithm.

I think there's a deep thing where we
as a society have not dealt with the
fact that we have to steward technology
responsibly.

We have treated technology as a wild west.
Just everyone can do whatever they want.
You know, oh just sell all of our younger
generations dating lives to corporations
for profit.

The real problem is that we are as a society
as a government, the generations that came
before me and also my generation, just let
technology rip.

The promise was if you let technology rip,
if you let internet rip, there will be democracy
and freedom and happiness and economic growth.

And where is that ?

I think my generation is noticing that broken
promise.

Connor Leahy (Ai researcher)