behavior is good intentions do not guarantee good outcomes.
Most people move through the world believing that if
their intentions are pure their actions should be understood
the same way.
But life doesn't work like that. A comment meant as humor,
lands as criticism. And a movement meant as honesty feels
like rejection. And a correction meant to help that just
sounds like judgement.
The person speaking believes they were clear, but the person
listening, experiences something completely different.
That's the delta between, that's the space where most mis-
understandings are born.
The difficult part is accepting a truth that the ego doesn't
enjoy hearing. Your intentions do not control your impact,
awareness does. When someone reacts in a way you didn't expect,
the easy response is defensiveness. I didn't mean it that way.
But growth happens when curiosity replaces defense.
What did you hear that I didn't realize I was saying?
The question alone shrinks that gap. And in shrinking
that distance, communication becomes something more
than words. It becomes understanding.
Jason Lee Daniel
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