When you say, “I can’t believe we ended up like this,” what you’re really grieving isn’t just the relationship — it’s the version of the future you were quietly holding onto. The one where effort finally met effort. Where distance turned into consistency. Where things made sense.

As a coach, I want to remind you that this ending wasn’t caused by you wanting too much. It was caused by a mismatch between your capacity for connection and their capacity to stay present when things mattered. You didn’t imagine the bond — you just believed it could grow into something stable if you loved carefully enough.

And that belief makes sense. Especially if you’re someone who leads with understanding, patience, and emotional depth. But relationships don’t collapse because one person feels deeply — they collapse when depth isn’t met with responsibility.

Ending up “here” doesn’t mean you were wrong about love. It means you’ve outgrown situations where uncertainty passes as intimacy. One day, this sentence will soften. Not because it stopped hurting — but because you’ll realize this ending redirected you toward something that doesn’t require you to question your worth just to stay connected.

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