Dueling..

“To be able to listen -- really, wholly passively, self-effacingly listen --
without presupposing, classifying, improving, controverting, evaluating,
approving or disapproving, without dueling with what is being said,
without rehearsing the rebuttal in advance, without free-associating
to portions of what is being said so that succeeding portions
are not heard at all -- such listening is rare.”

― Abraham Maslow